I know you’ve heard the saying that you spend your 30’s cleaning up the mess of your 20’s. In your 20s you’re trying to figure out how to become an adult, have a social life, keep up with bills, kids, and just overall life because you haven’t got it figured out yet. Then supposedly, something “magical” happens at 30 and you begin to get your crap together. I don’t know about yall but I don’t want to wait another 3 years to find peace in where I am at the moment. So what should I do? Where do I want to be in the next few years? These are questions I ask myself on a daily basis because I want to make sure that I am fully aware of the lens of how I want my life to be. As fully aware as I can be at least.
My husband and I have grappled with our current decisions because we hated the fact of stepping down from where we currently were because it was a place of comfort for us. But every time I look my son in his face, I know that something has GOT TO CHANGE. See, in order for our child to have better we have got to BE BETTER. I can’t keep making careless decisions and blaming it on the fact that Im young and will have time to fix it. Because no one knows the day they will leave this earth.
I’d rather leave a legacy for my son that says his parents thought about the future and made plans for the betterment of me. I want my son to be able to inherit money, property, etc so that he doesn’t have to struggle as much as his father and I did. I don’t want him to feel like there is no way out of the positions that he may put himself in because we taught him about things like credit, buying a home, and stocks. So for this to be possible I may have to get rid of somethings that make me comfortable and make me feel like I “worth” something to give me, and my family a leg up for the future.
I know this journey won’t be easy but I have decided that I will make the best of it! Also, I will not do so much for my child that I hinder his success in becoming an effective adult either. Balance is key! By us making these moves, it will allow us to be in a better space financially, spiritually, and mentally because when you die nothing can be taken with you. We will leave our son with the tools he needs to live a successful life that he can choose to create in whatever way he desires. If it takes you 5 years to get where you want to be great! If it takes 10,15,or 20 great as well ! As long as you are CONTINUOUSLY working towards your dreams for yourself and your family you will have NO REGRETS! What are somethings that you are currently grappling with that you know have caused you to take a step back and evaluate how you view your life?
XO, The Imperfect Woman
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