5 Friends that every girl needs

As I have gotten older, my friendships have become a part of my life where I have needed clarity. When I was younger, I would seek out friends who were just like me.  But I have learned that there is no growth in total commonalities. I aspire to keep friends that will stretch me to places I haven’t been before. To push me to become comfortable with being uncomfortable.

I think we have all had friends that were in our lives for a season, but disappear with the wind when we evolve based off of our life circumstances. But I do feel that there is a staple group of friends that everyone needs in their life, no matter what. These are the friends that are easily adaptable to changes and accepting of you in those uncertain times. Here are the 5 types of friends we all need in our life!

the spiritual friend

If you are a believer like me,  this friend is absolutely necessary!  We fall behind when were not held accountable in our Christian walk. This is the friend that reinforces right from wrong, provides insight on what God’s word says about your situation, and helps us to find and reach God’s purpose for our life. She is the person who knows who God has called them to be and is comfortable in their identity in Christ. But, even though they know their identity in Christ, they don’t judge you for the mishaps or mistakes. They instead help you to work through them.  It is hard to keep God at the center of your life if you don’t have counsel that seeks him out as a priority in theirs.

the passionate friend

This is the friend who is always pushing themselves and is very productive. They are passionate about the work they do and are always willing to help you find out what makes you happy regardless of your current reality. She is an optimist who believes that there is no limit to what they can achieve and actively wants this for others as well. We all need a friend who helps us to explore our passions, even if they are not profitable at the moment. She will always pick something she loves over the money if given the choice. They understand that something your passionate about can turn into profit in the long run. Whether that be financial, physical, or mental increase.

the listening friend

We all have those times where we just want to vent without any advice being given. To lend a listening ear to take in our problems and issues without the need to solve the problem immediately. This friend is emotionally stable and lets you figure out things for yourself unless you ask for their advice. However, when you ask for their advice,  they will give it to you straight with no chaser. The conversation comes from love but will tell you about yourself in hopes that a change will be made. She understands that you may not take her advice, but genuinely wants the best for you.

the successfully married or in a relationship friend

The keyword here is successful. You may have lots of friends that are in relationships, but are they positive, strong, and beneficial to both parties? You wouldn’t go and ask your single friend about successful relationship advice, would you? Just like you don’t ask your friend with a terrible relationship on ways to strengthen yours. I have also written a blog post on how to strengthen your friendships as well. Keep in mind that no relationship is perfect, but one that is progressing and where they both have mutual respect for each other is helpful as an example. This is the person you talk to about your marriage or relationship issues, knowing that the information will never leave their mouth. She is the girl that will always speak positive affirmations over your relationship and will believe for it to work out when times get tough.  But she will also tell you if there is something that is wrong or detrimental to your relationship.

the ride or die friend

I don’t mean the friend that will be down to slash your boyfriends’ tires when he’s acting up. I mean the friend that goes over and beyond for you without any questions being asked. She is always there regardless of if your 5 miles or 500 miles away. She is the girl that will always find a way to support you and genuinely loves watching you meet milestones in your personal and professional life. Her hands are always around to clap for you and be the cheerleader even when you don’t see the good in yourself.

Each of these friends has played a crucial part in who I am today, and I am so thankful for their role in my life. I know for a fact that without these friends, I wouldn’t have been confident enough to push towards my dreams. Granted that many of you probably have more than 5 friends, but do you find helpful qualities in the people you call friends? I can honestly say that all of my friends have qualities that have helped me in my time of need, hence why they are called my friends! Ladies, take the time to find your tribe! This tribe has been many years in the making. Some of these women I have known for 10 years while others I have only known for a few months. However, time is not a factor in how strong a friendship is. Do you have these friends in your life, and if not think of ways that you can find like-minded women to help you along your journey. Social media is a good place to start.

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XO,

The Imperfect Woman